October 2, 2022

You’d probably be less up for some sexy time if you’re staying in your nan’s floral spare room than you would a lush hotel.

That’s because whether you’ve thought about it or not, where you sleep drastically affects your sex life.

But it turns out there’s much more to it than that, in fact everything you keep in your room can impact it, down to the pictures on your bedside table.

Sexpert and taboo buster Jess Wilde spoke to Fabulous and revealed how the furniture in your room and even the color of your walls can help spice things up.

“There are specific colors that can really help to assist your sex life and in the same vein there are some colors that can get in the way,” she explained.

“The classic colors that we hear all time that are associated with passion and sex are red and pink.”

But if you don’t like red and don’t want your bedroom to look like it belongs to a Disney princess, dark purple or black can be good options.

“A lot of people are scared of going for dark colors in decorating in general, but it can be a great way of making a space feel cosy and a setting a mood and a tone,” sexpert Jess said.

When you paint your bedroom or put up fancy wallpaper sex might not be the first thing on your mind, decorating is stressful after all.

But regardless of interior trends or what colors match your furniture, some colors are always a no go for the bedroom.

"Green in particular is more associated with relaxation, so whilst it might be great for adding to sleep, it may not necessarily be great for initiating feelings of sexiness," said the sex expert.
“Green in particular is more associated with relaxation, so whilst it might be great for adding to sleep, it may not necessarily be great for initiating feelings of sexiness,” said the sex expert.
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Jess revealed: “Colors to avoid would be grey and green, both of these colors are associated with a less active sex life.

“Green in particular is more associated with relaxation, so whilst it might be great for adding to sleep, it may not necessarily be great for initiating feelings of sexiness.”

Once the color of your bedroom has been dealt with it’s important to tackle any mess, that means don’t leave any dirty laundry on the floor.

Jess says “a cluttered, messy bedroom is not conducive to a positive sex life.

“Not only does it get in the way and somewhat ruin the mood but also there is study that cam out from UCLA which showed women who have a messier bedrooms have higher levels of cortisol,” she explained.

Cortisol is a hormone that’s associated with feelings of anxiety and stress, “which are all the absolute opposite of feeling sexy and aroused and in the mood for sex,” Jess says.

And If you’ve fought with your partner over having a tv in the bedroom , you’re not alone.

The argument of whether you should keep a tv in your room has been going on for decades.

But contrary to popular belief, it’s not necessarily a bad thing for your sex life, unless of course you slob out watching reality tv all day, leaving no time for any sex.

Purple can be a great color to spice up the bedroom according to the sexpert.
Purple can be a great color to spice up the bedroom according to the sexpert.
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“I do think that your bedroom shouldn’t be a space that’s predominantly used for watching tv,” The sexpert confessed.

But according to the pro, eager couples or singletons can make the most of the tv in their bedroom by watching something that gets them in the mood.

“That can obviously be something as direct as porn, but it doesn’t have to be, It could be a movie that you love that has got a really spicy sex scene in it and whenever you put it on it gets you feeling frisky.

“So, I’m not completely against having tech in your bedroom, just make sure that you use it mindfully when it comes to improving your sex life.”

When it comes to the furniture in your room, it can be as sexy as you want it to be.

You don’t have to go full on 50 Shades of Grey and hang a bunch of whips up next to your work uniform, it’s all about the power of association.

Jess says that by keeping sex toys and sexy accessories in your bedside table “whenever you see that top drawer you think, ‘oh I know what’s in there’ and it gets the ball rolling.”

She continued: “Having that ease of access is really important, “it puts sex as a priority in your mind, and that’s the first place to make sure that you’re having an active sex life, If sex isn’t active in your mind it wont be active in your life.”

Keeping sex toys on the bedside table could also spice up the mood.
Keeping sex toys on the bedside table could also spice up the mood.
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Think twice about the photos you keep in your bedroom as well, Jess said: “I don’t know about you but I don’t particularly want to look at a picture of a close family member on my bedside table when I’m getting down to business.”

The position of your furniture can impact your sex life too.

“Not only does this have practical implication,” she explained, “if your bed is in a good place in the bedroom where you’ve got lots of ability to experiment – on the bed, off the bed, against the bed – it will also keep sex as a priority in your mind.”

If you move into a home with your partner, considering the layout of the bedroom is something that’s overlooked in terms of sex.

“If you know when you set the layout of your bedroom you had sex on your mind, it wasn’t just sleep, or where you put your clothes.

“It means it is priority in your mind and reminds you and your partner that sex is important to both of you and to your relationship,” Jess said.

And most importantly, if you can put the head of your bed against a wall that isn’t shared with anyone else.

“It doesn’t keep it terribly discrete for the other people in your house and it’s going to take you out of the moment,” she explained.

Having other furniture in your room which you can utilise for sex is a great thing to add to your bedroom, this could be chair “that can be a great alternative piece of furniture for having sex, or against, or maybe giving your partner a show.”

Contrary to popular belief, it's not necessarily a bad thing for your sex life, unless of course you slob out watching reality tv all day, leaving no time for any sex.
Contrary to popular belief, it’s not necessarily a bad thing for your sex life, unless of course you slob out watching reality tv all day, leaving no time for any sex.
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You probably already have a mirror of some sort in your bedroom, but you can reconsider the placement of the mirror to spice things up.

“For other people that don’t want to see themselves, it’s equally important to think about where that mirror goes,” accoring to the sex guru.

“You might be a couple that doesn’t want to see yourselves having sex and that would put you off, if that’s the case then of course do the opposite.”

If you live with other people, no matter what, lock the door.

The sex pro explained: “Just knowing there’s a lock on the door and nobody could, even if you think they wouldn’t accidentally walk into the bedroom.

“It enables your mind to be completely engaged on the moment at hand and to maximize on your pleasure.”

This story originally appeared on The Sun and was reproduced here with permission.